Understanding Swinger Lingo: The Most Used Expressions & What They Mean

Being part of a swinger dating site can be fun and rewarding, but also pretty confusing at first. Part of the confusion stems from the fact that everyone else seems to know terms and speak that you don't, and finding your way around can be difficult.

If you're stuck on swinger lingo, read through some of these most popular expressions that you might not understand—or some that might not mean what you think they mean.

AC/DC:

This doesn't refer to the band, but to Alternating Current/Direct Current—in other words, can go both ways. Refers to a bisexual swinger who doesn't mind being with men or women.

ALL CULTURES:

Someone who is into all aspects of swinging scenes. See English/French/Greek/Roman/Swedish Culture below—an All Cultures person is into each of these.

BULL:

A single man who wants to service the female half of a married or committed couple. The woman's lover or husband may either be present or not, as the couple chooses.

CLEAN/SAFE:

Clean refers to someone who is free of drugs and diseases. Safe refers to a person who cannot conceive or sire a child (a woman after having her tubes tied, a man after a vasectomy).

CLOSED DOOR/OPEN DOOR:

Closed Door refers to swinging that happens in different rooms from partners—if you and your partner go to a swinger's meet-up, you won't be swinging in the same room. Open Door refers to a place you can swing in the same room as your partner.

ENGLISH/FRENCH/GREEK/ROMAN/SWEDISH CULTURE:

English: Being spanked or caned.
French: Oral sex
Greek: Anal sex
Roman: Group sex/orgies
Swedish: Deep massage

HOT WIFE:

Not just a pretty wife, but a wife that wants to hook up with another man while her husband is aware of it, sometimes in the same room (or same bed).

INDOOR SPORTS:

Swinging (in polite conversation).

MEET FOR PLEASURE:

A hookup just for sexual swinging, without getting to know anyone else first.

MORESOMES:

Sex involving more than three people.

OFF/ON PREMISE:

On Premise refers to a place where swinging will occur after or during social interaction. Off Premise means that swinging can occur, but not at the same location. (Our regular monthly events are definitely On Premise)

SOFT SWINGING/SOFT SWAP:

Soft swinging or swapping refers to the process where people switch partners, but not for actual penetrative intercourse. Kissing, making out, and heavy petting is allowed, but usually only over or through clothing.

UNICORN:

A single woman who wants to be added to a married couple's relationship and form a sexual relationship with both halves of the pair.

UTOPIAN:

Someone who lives swinging as a total lifestyle, rather than a form of sexual activity. This person will be someone who is very enthusiastic about swinging and considers it the pinnacle of lifestyles.