Since we are a Sex-Positive community, it encompasses much more than swinging (or even sex to be honest!) but that may be the single most common way a lot of us do relate to each other.

For quite a few of us, swinging is a part of a sex positive lifestyle, so let's talk about that for a bit.

If you're new to swinging, the process can be both exhilarating and a little nerve-wracking. There are so many new things to learn, people often get overwhelmed at first.

Stop, relax.

Yes, there's a lot to learn, but that's why you have us to help you through the rough spots. You don't have to be like most people who get into swinging, who may do it by themselves without asking questions or seeking any advice.

There's a method for becoming great at swinging. If you can nail this, you'll be opening up a whole new and exciting world for yourself, and for your partner if you have one.

Basically, in order to avoid some of the biggest, most egregious mistakes that people make when getting into swinging, remember to be respectful of wishes of people in the community.

Swinging as a community

Swinging is a very community-based activity, by necessity. If you're not being good to the community, the community won't see the need to be good to you. Remember, the community isn't just the people who support you, but the ones you want to swing with as well!

If you come off too rough or rude, you're going to have issues. Remember that most of the people you're going to be meeting have been in the scene for quite some time. They know all about the community, and they can feel fairly soon whether they think you're a good match. You're not just trying to be part of someone's website or group, you're entering into a pretty intimate bond with a lot of these people—at least, if you do everything right.

If done successfully, you can enter into a fabulous lifestyle. If not, you're going to be back at square one, wondering why no one wants to sleep with you.